My first week at uni and Advice

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Hey guys, I hope you're all doing well! :)

I've mentioned quite a lot on my blog that i'm off to University soon and here I am! I moved in on Monday, freshers week didn't start till Wednesday and my induction was on Friday. To some of you that will make no sense at all but basically partying started from Wednesday onwards and I was inducted on Friday. I haven't had any actual lessons yet but there's so much to say about this week that I just needed to make a post about it.

Okay so, I moved in on Monday, it was pretty stressful. I literally packed on the day and moving everything from one place to another is just so stressful! I was panicking that I was going to forget something but it went quite smooth so i'm pleased with that. When my family said bye to me that night, everything just felt weird. I was happy because I was here after months of looking forward to it but I also had this weird feeling as well.

On Tuesday I woke up and I thought to myself that I need to start adjusting to this type of life, I wanted to go check out the university but since it took me forever to get ready I just went shopping. Now i'm from Birmingham and Birmingham has an amazing shopping centre so to come from that to this was a little bit shocking. I didn't like the city centre but I thought oh well. I didn't eat properly that night and this is something that became consistent. I also became very homesick, I started crying and feeling low already and this something I didn't expect at all but again I shrugged it off because I thought that it would pass.

Wednesday I went to check out the university. Wednesday was move in day for many people who chose for university accommodation so I was walking down the road I felt very intimidated. I know this sounds silly but everyone was with someone and I was on my own in a new city and this was the first time I was making the trip to university so I was very anxious and scared and intimidated. When I got back to my accommodation I was so glad to be back, I really REALLY hated being outside. To make matters worse, freshers night was starting on that night. Now I originally thought it would be starting on Thursday so I was panicking when I found out it wasn't. Now freshers week is run by university accommodation and i'm in private accommodation so what I needed to do was join in with another hall. Now that bit was easy as I knew which hall I wanted to go with but the problem was that this hall didn't inform any of the students what time everything will be starting so I had to contact them through Facebook and found out. When I arrived there everyone seemed to know each other and seemed to be getting on very well and I just felt like the odd one out. I spoke to a member of the hall committee and they gave me a wristband and one of the freshers tee and then I introduced myself to some girls and they are so lovely! I'm so glad that I met them! Now this night was a new experience to me, I don't drink yet I was surrounded by people drinking now that's completely fine but what I hated was the fact that they sprayed beer over everyone. We then moved to the university club and this was the part I enjoyed, I loved the girls I was dancing with, the music was great and the atmosphere was amazing! So even though I was stressing that night over everything, it turned out to be good.

I woke up on Thursday feeling very anxious and worried again. I was very anxious as to what time I should meet the girls I met last night but also I had to go get some shopping bits. Now for this night, freshers were heading out to a nightclub in town but were having pre-drinks in the hall before. I didn't bring any ID with me so even though I could get into the student club, I couldn't get into the town club so I told my new friends and they said it's completely fine and told me to come to the pre-drinks as many of them aren't going out anyways. Pre-drinks made me anxious because we were meeting new people in the accommodation though everyone seemed very nice after. We headed down to the common room and the same thing happened with drinking and beer spraying and all that stuff. Then some of my friends went to the club while others stayed and we just went back to their halls and chilled out there. I loved this night because just chilling and talking to new people was a nice thing to do, there was also a girl there who was in the same boat as me as she lived in private accommodation too so that was nice and her boyfriend was super nice too.

Friday it was induction day and again I was stressed and anxious over meeting new people. I got to the building fine because I checked it out on Wednesday, I did get a little lost but someone did help me. When I got into the building, everyone I talked to was so nice. I met this girl who is doing the same course as me and me and her have identical timetables and i'm so glad i'm with her because she's so nice. Then I also found another girl with an identical timetable and she was lovely too. I met someone else and she was super nice but we had different timetables. We talked to each other during our lunch break the most and it was nice, it was really calm and I felt relaxed and I loved it. After this I had to go pick up my ID card, luckily I met a girl who was doing the same and she helped me to walk to the building and then also walked home with me. She lives near to me, I got her number and she told me we could walk to class together. This was another freshers night but at the student club again so I was able to get in. We had pre-drinks again but the people there was so much more relaxed and more easy to talk to. I was the most calm out of all the nights then. The student club wasn't fun as it was not my type of music so we did leave quite early but I still enjoyed myself.

Saturday I went home and spent the rest of the weekend there. I was so glad to be back at home as I cried nearly everyday and missed it a lot.

Now i'm missing home a lot and during the summer holidays I was suffering from depression and anxiety and I think by starting something new and moving away hasn't helped it at all. At the moment I feel like I just want to go back home and just catch the train everyday to my university. I was thinking about taking a gap year but thought that wouldn't actually help as it wouldn't make me any more independent. So I need your advice. I know by staying here i'm throwing myself deeper and deeper into depression as there's a lot of loneliness here so i''m really confused. I get anxious over every little thing and it's something I can't control so I would really appreciate your advice. Do I just stick it out or should I go back home? Please let me know in the comments as anything would be helpful right now.

Thanks for reading :)

Adaliascloset xx

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  1. Hey Buddy,

    I think no one should ever EVER feel the need to go home just because anxiety and depression has taken over. And neither do I think that you should stick with the situation you are in now.

    I think that you should try to deal with it by breaking the barrier that you have with feeling lonely. Let a couple of weeks go by and who knows you may feel much much better! Just think that Uni is preparing you to be independent NOT lonely just independent and it may be that this experience is slightly/major different from your previous school life, which why it's hard adjusting.

    I think your Uni might have a mentor or someone that you can talk to. Or maybe talk to another student, you never know they may be feeling the same but might not be showing it!

    You can do it Girl!!! If you have got through nursery, year 7, job interviews etc. then you will get through with uni xoxoxx

    And another thing with anxiety, don't let it control you ! Take a deep breath and go for it;)

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    1. I am going to try and stick it out till Christmas. I really enjoy the course, it's the fact I live in a studio so there's not many people to talk to as they all keep to themselves. Thanks for the advice :) xx

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  2. I know everything can feel so overwhelming right now but don't let that stop you from enjoying your time at university. This is a chance to start anew - you can seriously be anything at Uni! Think of it as a chance to be the best version of yourself you can be and go with it. Just remember you're not the first person to go through this and you certainly won't be the last. You will most definitely be able to get through uni :]

    Good luck! Don't stress too much. One day you'll look back and wish that you could go back! Trust me :]

    xo Deborah
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    1. The uni aspect i'm fine with, I love the course i'm doing and everyone in it but I don't like being alone constantly. I have been thinking the way you suggested, just being a new person, thanks for the advice :) xx

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  3. University can be completely overwhelming because it's a new experience and you're almost forced into meeting lots of people when you are used to just knowing who you know. My friend recently dropped out of uni because of depression with only 6 weeks left of her first year - and I know she wanted to finish it out even though she wants to a different degree but her doctor told her she couldn't go back.

    If it gets to the point where you can't concentrate on your work, or you don't feel comfortable most of the time then just take a breather! Spend some time alone to relax. Don't make the rash decision to drop out, because you might regret it.

    I suffer from anxiety a lot, but now that I have found really good friends it has made it a lot easier. Surround yourself with people that make you feel comfortable and not those make your depression and anxiety worse.

    Wish you all the best!

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    1. Nooo I wasn't thinking about dropping out. I'm thinking about commuting so leaving the accommodatio, going back home and travelling to uni everyday. I'm glad you have found a way to make your anxiety easier :) I do have some new friends here but they live in a block together so I always find it weird when I show up, I feel like i'm tagging along. Thanks for commenting :) xx

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  4. University is definitely a rough time. I don't have to tell you that because you already know it. But it shouldn't be a torture, either. You learn A LOT about yourself when you are thrown into these situations and you grow as a human being. I went to uni many hours away from home and I am completely on my own, but 3 years later I can report that I don't regret it.

    However, depression and anxiety are not things we can just ignore. If you are going to stay, I highly recommend making sure you go to the counselor or find a friend that you can talk about this kind of stuff. Last semester was SO difficult for me, but talking about it can really help (especially if you're like me and don't share your feelings too often). Don't let your anxiety hold you back from a possibly awesome learning experience, but also don't feel like you have to go through this. If you end up going back home, that's okay, too.

    I guess my bottom line is: There are not a lot of right or wrong answers when it comes to this. Give yourself some time to figure out how you fit into the campus. The first week is SO scary. So is the first month. And semester. The whole thing is scary! But it's also full of opportunities. And they are yours to get!

    Good luck! xx

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    1. I have been thinking about going to a counselor as there's one near campus. Your advice has really helped, thank you! :) xx

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  5. Starting University can be totally overwhelming at first, but you're still adjusting. Keep you head up, it will take some time!
    -Alex
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  6. Dont worry, it takes time. But soon you will be used to it :)
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  7. Good luck for university! :) I know its hard at first but you will get used to it and you'l really enjoy it

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  8. Oh hun. It must be such a change for you. Hopefully you will get used to it soon, I hope this week is going better xx

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  9. When i went to university i knew noone but one or maybe two girls! Problem was they made friends so easy and we had different time tables despite being in the same course.
    I must admit i am lucky as i didn’t have to move away from my family or friends so i could fill them in and get advice from them. Stick it out.. it does get better!! :) xx
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  10. Why would you go back home? University has so much to offer and yes, it can be very stressful & lonely but you met those two girls who are taking the same classes as you- why don't you hang out with them? It's important to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with. Take it like it's a new adventure. Take classes, make homework/study, then if you have some spare time go out with new friends. Make skype account and make free time, for example one hour every evening, and talk to your family and friends at home. Exchange information & details about their/your day. When you get into your (some sort) of routine you'll get used to new changes :) Just occupy yourself with this and that. My friend once also felt such a need to go home and she missed her family very very much. And she said she went for a run everry morning- to get her mind of things and it helped. So don't give up and I'm sure everything will turn out okay ;) Keep us informed :)

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  11. I graduated from uni this july and it was amazing (although I stayed at home and got the bus to and from uni) - it is definitely worth it in the end and I miss it so much now x

    Heather | Of Beauty & Nothingness

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  12. lovely post!

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  13. This post was so interesting! It's nice to see things from your perspective. If I was in your position, I would persuade myself to stay where I am and stick through the term. As you said, there are many nice people there and I'm sure you'll blend into "your own crowd" no matter where you live! Also can I just recommend that you try and be friends with EVERYONE and stick around with as many people as you can for now - then you'll realise who you mix well with - if you stick with the same group of people every lunch, you may later regret it!
    Hope you have an amazing time - keep us updated! (And I wish I could be your flatmate - not in a weird way! haha!)
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  15. This is such a fantastic idea.. people are always so scared of their first week etc, so this will be so helpful to someone in the same situation! Good luck with Uni xx

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  17. Hi hunni, I think these things just take time and some adjust quicker to situations than others. At the same time however, uni is not for all so don't force yourself to stay if you are really struggling and it is affecting you. I think however just give it a bit more time and do the things that make you happy. If you are struggling with anxiety and depression then you should visit your GP who may be able to go through some techniques or prescribe you something to help just take off that egde and get you through the next few weeks. I do hope everything goes well for you and stay strong. xxx

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  18. definitely try and stick at it for as long as you can! you'll regret not trying! it's always difficult to settle in but the longer you keep at it it gets easier :) just stay strong and know that everyone is thinking of you :)
    Emma x
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  19. Hey sweetie, sorry you're having trouble settling into university life. I was the same in my first year, I missed home and cried a lot in my first week, but I think that's the general homesickness kicking in. I was also long distance with my boyfriend so I spent a lot of time upset in my room and not socialising which was a big mistake. I'd suggest meeting as many new people as possible, going to events and maybe joining a society, which is a great way to meet like-minded people who are interested in more than the drinking side of university life! If you're really really not enjoying it after your first semester then maybe you could think about living at home and travelling to your classes instead, it doesn't sound like you have any problems with your actual course, so this could be beneficial! Hope this helped :) xxx

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    1. This has really helped me a lot! Its nice to know that i'm not the only one who feels/felt like this. I also have a boyfriend who's near me but with differing timetables his being extremely full and mine being quite empty, so I guess that aspect is okay. Thanks for the advice! :) xx

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  20. I know how it feels, i've been a uni student for a couple of years now but last year i studied abroad (in durham aka winterfell) and everything in england is so different, i definitely felt like a fresher. and i did cry my first night there because one day you're at home with your friends, your cat, and everything is familiar, and the next day BAM you're in another country where no one speaks your language and you dont know anyone and can't understand how college works and even the food is different. but it turned out as the most amazing and eventful and crazy year of my life, i'm sure you'll feel just the same once you get used to it ^^ good luck girl x

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